Now, please understand that herpes is something I've never had to think about before in my life.
I've gotten STD checks, and I had one 8 months ago after my last partner, and yes, I told them to include a herpes test. The truth is, I was a little embarrassed by my reaction, even though I imagine that surprise is normal for a lot of people. I'm a naturally shy and reserved person, and I don't go out on as many dates as other men my age.
When someone is first diagnosed, the thought of dating with herpes can fill them with horrible anxiety. They may be scared they could spread herpes to their future partners.
They may simply be terrified about how they are going to face the world.
Once I left that relationship I realized that he had been treating me in a way that was really inexcusable, and decided that nobody gets to make you feel worthless.
It doesn't matter what virus you have or what decisions you've made in life, there's no justification for that.
Marie Claire: How has having a STI affected your dating life?
One in every six people between the ages of 14-49 have it, and the majority don't even know (! To help us demystify the experience, we spoke with herpes-positive blogger Ella Dawson, 23, to tell us about what really happens when you date with the STI.
If you like someone enough, herpes can be just something you have to work with.
With few exceptions, people don't date solely because they want to have sex.
They date because they like each other and find each other interesting and attractive.
Learning you have genital herpes can be devastating.
That's particularly true when your love life is in flux. After herpes diagnosis, people may be worried about being judged.