With no phone calls, emails—not even a text—the transition can be devastating.
“It’s okay to grieve,” says Rachel, whose boyfriend is currently completing boot camp in the Army.
“We went from spending all day, everyday, together, to very limited contact.
The first few days were the worst.” Keeping busy helps pass the time and meeting other women, who are going through the same thing, can be a great source of strength and support.
I wondered how I was going to make it through and if it was ever going to end. Within the first week I quickly realized that friends and family who have never been through a spouse leaving for military training really have no clue what you are going through.
But I’m here, I’m fine and I’m still with my Airman. They think they are being helpful by telling you that “he’s coming back” and “it’s only 8 weeks” but in reality, they are being insensitive.
At the age of 18, he reported to Air Force Basic Military Training, at Lackland Air Force Base, Texas.
In today’s military, getting married young is not uncommon.So I just started telling him about my day at work. Each Sunday, I would send him the “ESPN update” with all of the scores.As long as they get letters, they couldn’t care less what they are about.Your trainee is called an AB (Airman Basic) and depending upon their MTI (military training instructor) they will probably get yelled at 24 hours – 7 days a week.You will wonder what they are doing; you will wonder if they think about you; you will wonder if they’ve made friends or not; you will wonder when they will call you; and you will wonder how you are ever going to make it to the end without falling apart. My experience was not unlike other military spouses; it was filled with emotions, questions, resentment, and excitement.